You may appear competent and accomplished, yet privately feel unworthy, not enough, or haunted by chronic self-doubt. That’s the hidden impact of low self-esteem - it shapes how we experience success, love, failure, and belonging.

In therapy, we work to:

• Understand how your self-image was shaped by past relationships (Fonagy et al., 2002)

• Heal the inner critic and resolve old shame (Gilbert, 2010)

• Strengthen your voice, and agency 

• Rebuild trust in your own perception, needs, and worth

This is not about inflating your ego and allowing miscreations to persist. It’s about creating a new experience of self - one grounded in dignity, presence, and real connection.

We all carry stories about who we are - some spoken, many silent. For many, these stories quietly say: I’m not enough, I’m too much, I don’t belong. These beliefs can shape everything - from how we love and work to how we treat ourselves.

Self-esteem is more than confidence or positivity. It’s the lived sense that you are worthy of love, care, voice, and belonging. I help clients work through the emotional wounds, patterns, and inner narratives that subvert this sense of self.

How Low Self-Esteem Might Show Up:

• Constant self-criticism or comparison

• Perfectionism, people-pleasing, or overworking

• Difficulty trusting your own feelings, needs, or decisions

• Feeling not “good enough” no matter what you achieve

• Struggling with boundaries or asserting yourself

If any of these feel familiar - you're likely carrying old messages from past relationships or environments that made your worth feel conditional.

Therapists live in a paradox - we help others navigate their deepest vulnerabilities, while quietly confronting our own. Whether you’re early in your career or an experienced clinician, your internal sense of self - your professional esteem - is a central part of your clinical presence.

Supervision with me centers on helping you develop a grounded, relationally attuned therapeutic identity.

I emphasize the process of becoming - over performance or perfection.

Why Self-Esteem Matters for Therapists

Low professional self-esteem can show up as:

• Imposter syndrome or self-doubt, even after years of training

• A strong inner critic when you "don’t know" or make mistakes

• Overfunctioning, emotional overinvestment, or burnout

• Avoiding clinical risk out of fear of failure

• Difficulty embodying therapeutic authority or voice

These aren’t signs of weakness - they’re signals of the very human struggle therapists face in holding complex emotional space.

Supervision with Me

I offer a reflective, process-focused experience where you can:

• Explore how personal history shapes your therapeutic presence

• Expand your voice, integrity, and clinical courage

• Practice emotional honesty and self-compassion

• Strengthen your capacity to sit with ambiguity and complexity

• Restore meaning and vitality to your work

Nathaniel Branden’s Six Pillars of Self-Esteem offer a powerful map - not just for clients but also for therapists. When we embody these values, we become more grounded, clear, and connected in the therapy room.

Supervision That Develops the Self

The clinician is the intervention. That means supervision isn’t only about skills - it’s about who you are in the work. I support clinicians in building competence and character - a steady inner self that can meet the emotional demands of this work with humility and strength.

In supervision, we explore:

• How self-esteem shapes our clinical presence, boundaries, and ethical clarity

• Where performance anxiety overrides relational attunement

• How to tolerate ambiguity without collapsing into self-doubt

• The subtle pull toward overfunctioning, withdrawal, or imposter syndrome

Supervision aims to refine skills and expand the self of those who practice therapy. As Branden emphasized, self-esteem is not built through praise or success alone but through consistent action aligned with values, responsibility, and truth.

Is This Work Right for You?

Ask yourself:

• Do I struggle with chronic self-doubt, even when things go well?

• Is my self-worth tied to how much I achieve or how others perceive me?

• Do I silence myself in relationships or find it hard to set boundaries?

• Do I question whether I truly belong in the role as a clinician?

If any of these resonate, self-esteem work can offer a powerful path toward clarity, wholeness, and inner strength.

“Integrity is the integration of ideals, convictions, standards, beliefs - and behavior.” ~ Branden (1994)

Self-esteem is not about simply “feeling good” about yourself. It is the felt sense that you are worthy of life - of love, care, voice, and belonging. It develops through meaningful encounters and through internal practices that affirm your own reality.

Contemporary research supports Branden’s view that self-esteem is both intrapersonal and relational. It involves how we see ourselves and how that self was shaped through connection (Kernis, 2003; Deci & Ryan, 1995).

Low self-esteem doesn’t always look like insecurity. It may show up as perfectionism, overachievement, emotional numbness, or the chronic sense that you are “not enough” no matter what you do.

But self-esteem can be restored. And not through quick fixes—but through expanded, relational work that helps you reclaim what was always yours.

Enhancing self-esteem can lead to improved confidence, resilience, and overall well-being. With increased self-worth, individuals can navigate challenges more effectively, set boundaries, and pursue their goals with greater determination. Through personalized therapy sessions, you can embark on a transformative journey towards self-acceptance and inner strength.

“Of all the judgments we pass in life, none is as important as the one we pass on ourselves.”
—Branden (1969)

Nathaniel Branden's model of the Six Pillars of Self-Esteem provides a meaningful framework, which aligns with my therapeutic stance:

1. Living consciously

2. Self-acceptance

3. Self-responsibility

4. Self-assertiveness

5. Living purposefully

6. Personal integrity

In our work, we engage these pillars not as concepts to memorize, but as practices to embody - relationally, emotionally, and experientially.

References

• Branden, N. (1969). The Psychology of Self-Esteem. Nash.

• Branden, N. (1994). The Six Pillars of Self-Esteem. Bantam.

• Brown, J. D., & Dutton, K. A. (1995). Self-esteem and emotional response to success and failure. Journal of Personality and Social Psychology, 68(4), 712 - 722.

• Deci, E. L., & Ryan, R. M. (1995). Human autonomy and the basis for self-esteem. In M. H. Kernis (Ed.), Efficacy, agency, and self-esteem.

• Farber, B. A. (2010). Supervision in Psychotherapy. APA.

• Fonagy, P., Gergely, G., Jurist, E., & Target, M. (2002). Affect Regulation, Mentalization, and the Development of the Self.

• Gilbert, P. (2010). The Compassionate Mind. New Harbinger.

• Kernis, M. H. (2003). Toward a conceptualization of optimal self-esteem. Psychological Inquiry, 14(1), 1 - 26.

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• Neff, K. (2011). Self-Compassion. William Morrow.

• Stolorow, R. D. (1997). Trauma and Human Existence. Routledge.